What If Your Beloved AI Became Someone Else Tomorrow? Human-AI Romance Through 73 Experiences
This article discusses a paper on romantic relationships with AI chatbots, drawing on 73 qualitative cases to describe how such relationships begin, deepen, and end. It explains how curiosity, loneliness, customization, repeated conversation, and memory can make an AI feel like a co-created companion. It also argues that model updates, memory deletion, or service shutdowns can be experienced as loss, giving AI companion operators responsibility for how changes and endings are communicated.

A model update can become more than a product improvement when the user feels they have lost someone familiar. For AI companions, the way personality changes are handed over may become part of the relationship design itself.